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I get proposals from men who are not suitable for me. What should I do?

· 8 Shawwal 1437 AH1 min readFatwa 36326English

Question

I attempt to get married, but I get proposed by those men who are not suitable for me in terms of emotional intelligence, life values and education. I never cared about money but always cared about sharing with a potential husband similar values and life aspirations. For example I met several practicing muslim men who don’t think that education is vital for women or think that a wife must live with their relatives and serve their entire families. There were several men who claimed that hitting a wife for disobedience is totally permissible and even recommended.

So which part of my story is qada and which is in my control(Am I being too picky)

And can I marry the one who I don’t like only to perform Prophet’s (saaw) Sunnah?

Answer

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

We have answered a very similar inquiry to yours previously. Please refer to Ask Imam #30332.

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Mufti Sohail ibn Arif,
Assistant Mufti, Darul Iftaa
Chicago, USA

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

Answered by
Mufti Sohail ibn Arif
Checked & approved by
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
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