Obedience To Parents

· 19 Shawwal 1447 AH1 min readEnglish

Question

If parents or elders command something that is sinful or harmful, such as telling someone to harm themselves, is it obligatory to obey them? How should a Muslim handle this while still respecting parents?

Answer

It is obligatory to listen to one’s parents as long as their commands do not go against the commands of the Shar’iah. There is no obedience required to the creation if it entails disobeying the Creator. Harming oneself is prohibited in the Shari’ah.

References (Arabic / Urdu sources)

قال تعالى:

وَوَصَّيْنَا الْإِنسَانَ بِوَالِدَيْهِ حَمَلَتْهُ أُمُّهُ وَهْنًا عَلَىٰ وَهْنٍ وَفِصَالُهُ فِي عَامَيْنِ أَنِ اشْكُرْ لِي وَلِوَالِدَيْكَ إِلَيَّ الْمَصِيرُ ۝١٤ وَإِن جَاهَدَاكَ عَلَىٰ أَن تُشْرِكَ بِي مَا لَيْسَ لَكَ بِهِ عِلْمٌ فَلَا تُطِعْهُمَا ۖ وَصَاحِبْهُمَا فِي الدُّنْيَا مَعْرُوفًا

، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ ، قَالَ : قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : ” لَا يَجْزِي وَلَدٌ وَالِدَهُ، إِلَّا أَنْ يَجِدَهُ مَمْلُوكًا فَيَشْتَرِيَهُ فَيُعْتِقَهُ “.

مسند الامام احمد ٧١٤٣

«كيف بك يا عبدَ اللهِ، إذا كان عليكم أُمَراءُ يُضيِّعونَ السُّنَّةَ، ويُؤخِّرونَ الصَّلاةَ عن ميقاتِها؟»، قال: كيف تأمُرُني يا رسولَ اللهِ؟ قال: «تسأَلُني ابنَ أمِّ عبدٍ، كيف تَفعَلُ؟! لا طاعةَ لمَخلوقٍ في مَعصيَةِ اللهِ عزَّ وجلَّ».

أخرجه أحمد (٣٨٨٩) واللفظ له، وعبدالرزاق (٣٧٨٨)، والبزار (١٩٨٨)

Answered by
Mufti Abrar Ahmad Motala
Checked & approved by
Mufti Yacoob Vally Saheb
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