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Satisfying one's wife during intimacy

· 15 Muharram 1441 AH1 min readEnglish

Question

1. Is it recommended or even mandatory that the woman orgasms during a sexual relationship with her husband.

2. If the husband has reached orgasm, is it mandatory or recommended to wait until the woman has her orgasm and then stop the sexual relationship.

3. For me, once I reach my orgasm (the sperm is out) I cannot continue the sexual activity, but my wife tells me that it is her right to have an orgasm also. The result is that all these words and attitudes have broken the desire for my wife. I do not want to touch my wife because I have a disgust in me. I have the impression that the roles are reversed, although I have always been indulgent in sex with my wife.

All the more her sexual appetite is much greater than mine, please advise us.

Answer

Just as a man feels comfortable when he climaxes and releases emotions, then women also feel the same. Hence, in a marriage union one should definitely consider his spouse and see that she is also comfortable. When these matters are not considered then it creates complications

And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.

Answered by
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)
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