Marrying when there is a need

· 1 Rabiʻ I 1435 AH1 min readEnglish

Question

Is legal love marriage allowed which means without looking talking exposing one another. I (happen to be a pious unmarried male of 28) got information from a brother of a very reputed pious divorced women of 30 that she wants to marry me and if I do not marry her she will remain unmarried but my family will accept it for many reasons. She also said that if my family will not accept it then I will have to marry her secretly then she will remain in her house and I will remain in my house. And Allah made me too generous that I do not want to hurt anyones feelings so naturally I am also feeling love for her. So what should I do now?

Answer

Don’t be a victim to these types of traps. If four women make the same demand will you marry them. Marriage is done by need. If you have a genuine need then make a proper nikaah and assume all the responsibilities of marriage.

And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.

References (Arabic / Urdu sources)

عن أبي سعيد الخدري عن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قال إن الدنيا حلوة خضرة وإن الله مستخلفكم فيها فينظر كيف تعملون فاتقوا الدنيا واتقوا النساء فإن أول فتنة بنى إسرائيل كانت في النساء (صحيح مسلم #2742)

Answered by
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)
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